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The Mineral Rights Framework
Susan Scott’s Fierce Conversations has changed how I approach conversations. Her framework is one that I come back to every time I need to have an honest conversation.
Let’s face it, everybody has a conversation that they have been dreading. Maybe it’s a raise with the boss. Maybe it’s an issue with your partner. Or it could be something annoying that your friend does. Whatever the conversation, you have likely been avoiding it and that means it is draining energy from you. The Mineral Rights framework can help you have those conversations you just don’t know how to have. Here is the framework:
What is the most important thing that we should be talking about today?
The most important thing after asking this question is to stay silent. Let the other person respond. Don’t chime in with examples or leading follow-up questions (e.g., you mentioned you had an issue with Bob last week, should we talk about that?).
What’s going on?
Dive deeper into the topic. What’s going on with X? How long has it been going on? How bad is it?
