How to have better relationships with your partner and what I learned about the 5 love languages

I remember my very first experience with Gary Chapman’s The 5 love languages. It was at a Toastmaster meeting where I was judging a speech contest. One of the contestants (a male) started out talking about his cute relationship with his girlfriend (who was sitting in the audience). His relationship was good at first, but after reading about the five love languages and learning about his and his girlfriend’s primary love language, their relationship was even better.

The only other thing I remember from that speech was that he brought his girlfriend up on stage and told everyone that her love language was physical touch and so he embraced her with a big side hug and then continued on with his speech. Since then, I was intrigued by what the love languages were and how they could help me have a better relationship with my partner.

Gary Chapman is an author, a speaker and first and foremost, he is a counselor. Through his counselling of couples, he has found that people express love in different ways. A lot of his counselling is at interesting points in a relationship. For example, he shares stories of couples coming in for counselling shortly after marriage or after having kids or after several years in the relationship. Each person in a relationship has a…